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Kiru Taye’s ‘His Treasure’

I’m pleased and very proud to announce the imminent release of ‘His Treasure’. It’s historical romantic fiction set in the region now referred to as South Eastern, Nigeria or Igboland and is part of the 3-book Men of Valor mini-series written by Kiru Taye, who happens to be my friend. (A hint of name-dropping here, as you do Winking smile). It is being published by Breathless Press



I love reading romance and historicals so a combination of those two genres is Christmas-come-early for me. I’ve been privileged to read a pre-published copy of this book and can assure you that you are in for a treat served up with extra dollops of romance. Here’s the blurb;

In a time when men ruled their households with firm hands, can a quiet man tame his rebellious wife with persevering love?

Angry at being forced to marry a man not of her choosing, Adaku stubbornly shuns her new husband on their wedding night. However, she soon discovers there are worse things than giving in to a man whose touch awakens her deep desires. In a land where fruitfulness is celebrated, she could soon be labeled a barren woman.

Obinna knows there are several ways to tame a rebellious woman. Patience and perseverance are two of them. Adaku is his treasure and he would never let her go. When her fears push her into his arms, will he be able to convince her to stay with him forever by unleashing the passion within her?

It’s out on the 2nd of December 2011.

I highly recommend you grab a copy as soon as it’s out. I can guarantee you won’t regret it. Trust me, I’m a bibliophile!

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Do you want to be a whale or a mermaid?

Today women are constantly bombarded by images of stick-thin women. We’ve been led to believe that thin equals beautiful therefore anything else (read: not thin, fat, voluptuous, full-figured, curvy etc) is ugly. Photographs of waif-like models and celebrities splashed across magazines, billboards and television screens are a constant reminder of the size to aspire to.

The choice role models of our times, celebrities, buttress this stereotype daily even during pregnancy. A few weeks after childbirth, we see them in photographs looking as slim as, if not slimmer than they were previously.

Increasingly, women are under pressure to look just as good, if not better than all the images of the body beautiful. The countless diets we hear about are testament to this fact.

I have always maintained that if I had the kind of resources most celebrities have at my disposal and if my livelihood depended on the way I look, I, too, would look just as good as any of them and perhaps better.

I would have a nutritionist and chef to plan and cook my meals. They would have the headache of counting calories, preparing and cooking and washing up to deal with. I would have a personal trainer and all the necessary equipment to work out at a time and place convenient for me. I would have domestic help to do the household chores and keep an eye on the kids. Tell me, with all of the above, how on earth I wouldn’t possibly be skinny!

The title of this blog post was inspired by something Delphine Fieberg posted on Facebook. It is not just apt, spot on and so in line with what I think but also reassuring and witty, I just had to share. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.

They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.

They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.

We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.

Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?! ”

* Image of French Model Tara Flynn*

What do you think? Please free to share this with any mermaids and whales you know.

Thanks for stopping by and tara for now.

Lessons I wish my kids would learn – Life isn’t fair

As I sit here trying to write this post, my boys are fighting over whose turn it is to sit next to mummy. They always argue about who gets to sit next to me on the sofa. Now it would make everyone’s life, especially mine, a lot simpler if I sat in the middle of the three-seater sofa, thereby giving each of them space to sit on either side of me. But I much prefer to sit at the extreme left hence leaving ample room on my right for them to sit but no, they have to be right next to me, skin to skin.

To stop the constant bickering every time we have a sit-down moment, I have developed a turn-taking system. Each child sits next to me for a while, then they swap places. As you may well know, children interpret time completely differently from grown-ups. Everything is now, be it five minutes or five years. So even with our system, there are still arguments over how long the other person has been sitting next to mummy for. Some days I have the patience and presence of mind to ensure they each get an equal amount of time in their favourite sitting position, other days I just want to run and hide, that is when I’m not yelling at them to stop.

In time, they will learn that life isn’t always fair. They will come to find out that things don’t always work out the way we think they should. Even the wise King Solomon was baffled by this truth when he declared in Ecclesiastes 9:11 ‘I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.’

I just wish they would learn it sooner rather than later. Until then, I live in hope.

What lessons do you wish (your) children would learn?

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