Lessons I wish my kids would learn – Life isn’t fair
As I sit here trying to write this post, my boys are fighting over whose turn it is to sit next to mummy. They always argue about who gets to sit next to me on the sofa. Now it would make everyone’s life, especially mine, a lot simpler if I sat in the middle of the three-seater sofa, thereby giving each of them space to sit on either side of me. But I much prefer to sit at the extreme left hence leaving ample room on my right for them to sit but no, they have to be right next to me, skin to skin.
To stop the constant bickering every time we have a sit-down moment, I have developed a turn-taking system. Each child sits next to me for a while, then they swap places. As you may well know, children interpret time completely differently from grown-ups. Everything is now, be it five minutes or five years. So even with our system, there are still arguments over how long the other person has been sitting next to mummy for. Some days I have the patience and presence of mind to ensure they each get an equal amount of time in their favourite sitting position, other days I just want to run and hide, that is when I’m not yelling at them to stop.
In time, they will learn that life isn’t always fair. They will come to find out that things don’t always work out the way we think they should. Even the wise King Solomon was baffled by this truth when he declared in Ecclesiastes 9:11 ‘I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.’
I just wish they would learn it sooner rather than later. Until then, I live in hope.
What lessons do you wish (your) children would learn?
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