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Do you want to be a whale or a mermaid?

Today women are constantly bombarded by images of stick-thin women. We’ve been led to believe that thin equals beautiful therefore anything else (read: not thin, fat, voluptuous, full-figured, curvy etc) is ugly. Photographs of waif-like models and celebrities splashed across magazines, billboards and television screens are a constant reminder of the size to aspire to.

The choice role models of our times, celebrities, buttress this stereotype daily even during pregnancy. A few weeks after childbirth, we see them in photographs looking as slim as, if not slimmer than they were previously.

Increasingly, women are under pressure to look just as good, if not better than all the images of the body beautiful. The countless diets we hear about are testament to this fact.

I have always maintained that if I had the kind of resources most celebrities have at my disposal and if my livelihood depended on the way I look, I, too, would look just as good as any of them and perhaps better.

I would have a nutritionist and chef to plan and cook my meals. They would have the headache of counting calories, preparing and cooking and washing up to deal with. I would have a personal trainer and all the necessary equipment to work out at a time and place convenient for me. I would have domestic help to do the household chores and keep an eye on the kids. Tell me, with all of the above, how on earth I wouldn’t possibly be skinny!

The title of this blog post was inspired by something Delphine Fieberg posted on Facebook. It is not just apt, spot on and so in line with what I think but also reassuring and witty, I just had to share. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.

They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.

They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.

We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.

Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?! ”

* Image of French Model Tara Flynn*

What do you think? Please free to share this with any mermaids and whales you know.

Thanks for stopping by and tara for now.


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15 thoughts on “Do you want to be a whale or a mermaid?

  1. CityDiva on said:

    I think i really like lady Delphine, though we have never met. Great write up lady
    I am a whale beyond any shadow of doubt and by any ones standards. Would like to look like a mermaid but alas most definitely a whale. What to do ? No idea. I do watch what I eat but to no avail. And no motivation to go to the gym and get all sweaty. Pity that everything that is calorie laden tastes so gooOOOOoood !
    If celery, carrots and cabbage tasted better I would be a size 2
    Ah well 🙂 🙂 🙂
    Thanks for sharing wordsmythe

  2. CityDiva on said:

    PS Women everywhere need to stop letting the media tell them what to do and how they should look. The media, fashion industry, magazines dont care about you. They are out to fleece you of as much money as possible !!! 😉 and by any hype or means
    Healthy and happy is a blessing 🙂

  3. adaeze on said:

    Without a doubt I am a jolly happy whale, having fun and enjoying life! The sway in my stride celebrate my child bearing hips and the confidence in my stance a testament to the wealth of knowledge and wisdom accumulated all over me!!!Lol… I just love that bit. Cracked me up real good.

    Thanks for sharing! Now I’ve got me another repartee up my sleeves!!!*wink*

  4. That was a great riposte, lol…

  5. So funny! I’m most definitely a whale.

  6. I am whale, consistently aspiring to be a mermaid. BTW even though it’s a bit late now, I like the new WordPress theme! Nice!

  7. Of whales and mermaids: I ask: what’s in a name anyway?!!

    Yeah, yeah, okay, you’ve guessed right: I am a whale! And I’m quite comfortable with my whalish proportions too. I like having lots of friends, I love the parties, and oooh, the travel too!

    Truth is, there’s a whale of a lot more to life and living than what dress size one wears…..a whole lot more besides! Who you are on the inside, the size of your heart, whether or not the world is a better place with you in it, what you’ll be remembered for when you’re gone and whether you’ll be remembered or missed at all etc etc. In the grand scheme of things, what’s a dress, bra or pant size worth??? Zilch!!

    A wise person (probably a whale) once said that we should live our lives in such a sublime way that when we depart, we’ll leave behind us, footprints in the sands of time! The bigger you are, the bigger will be your footprints, right?

    And so, that’s why I am a whale!

    Once again, well-penned Wordsmythe!

  8. There’s a beautiful verse in the bible that is my weapon of defense; the righteous shall be made fat.
    The comfort and joy that rushes through me each time i meditate on this verse is indescribable!!. Ooohhhh am such a happy whale!. Besides, why are people so gullible?… Air brushing…hello?.

  9. LOL. That’s a good one, Nkem. I always say the same thing – if we had half the time that celebrities had, they couldn’t compete with us. Love the humour.

  10. jamgolf on said:

    Well said.

  11. I love this. At the moment, I’m definitely a whale. Give me that six figure advance, and I may just turn into something else. LOL

  12. Chiomsy on said:

    Spot on! I don’t believe the hype that being thin is beautiful. Its not! What is beautiful about a woman that looks like a 12 year old boy? Seriously? Take a look at a curvy woman and see how God intended women to look, like women!! Besides these thin women are cranky and miserable all the time because they are hungry!!

  13. CityDiva on said:

    Nice one Chiomsy 🙂 🙂 , I forgot the always being hungry part

  14. I guess it’s not only the media, sometimes it’s our friends and family that stick the hurtful words in. I’ve never been bothered by the media hype, but I’ve lost count of the number of people I catch up with who, before asking how I am or what I’ve been up to say things like, ‘are you pregnant?’, ‘you’ve really put on weight o’, ‘you should join the gym’. And I wonder what kind of insecurity makes one woman speak to another like that and how do you know this is not the weight I want to be!! And 2 times out of 3, they are overweight, so it’s almost like they are thinking, ‘thank God you too have succumbed like us’! I say, live and let live…

  15. Hollywood’s created a MATRIX for women and any woman who wants to be free needs to break away from that unrealistic Barbie-doll fantasy. It’s pure madness! Why shouldn’t we all have the right to redefine beauty as is it suits us? Since when did it become an exclusive right of the media?
    Orobo nor be crime o! lol! (unless of course, it becomes a health risk)

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