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“What God told me to tell Nigerians when I died” Dame PFJ

“My fellow deceased,

I actually died. I passed out for more than a week. My intestine and tummy were opened. I had eight or nine surgeries within a period of one month. I am not Lazarus but my experience was similar to his. My doctors said all hope was lost. When God says yes, nobody can say no. People are always afraid of operation. But in my own case, while my travail lasted, I was begging for it after the third operation because I was going to the theatre everyday. I know that some people somehow leaked the information that I was dead. They are people that I trust and rely on. To them, I was dead and I would never return to the country alive. Some of them even sold my things off. I won’t say everything here.

dame_patience_jonathanThank God the doctors and nurses responded to treatment. It was God himself in His infinite mercy that said I will return to Nigeria. God woke me up after seven days.

While I lied there on the bed with my tummy opened, God told me I will not die because I had not completed the assignments He gave me that was why I was sent back. The day I came back, I said God I have nothing to say, I offer myself to you. Also our Nigerians has gathered and prayed for me and God heard and answered their prayers. And I thank God for that, but the same time, I will use this opportunity to tell those few ones that are saying anybody that goes to the villa or Aso Rock that the person will die. They mention Abacha, they mentioned Stella Obasanjo, they mentioned Yar’dua and other people but those people why didn’t they mention those ones that went there with their families and succeeded but they still come out alive and God save them, we should remember that Aso Rock is the seat of power.

Anyway, God saved me and brought me back to life. I will be doing things that will touch the lives of the less privileged. God gave me a second chance because I reached there. He also gave me several messages.

First, to my fellow widows, God said we have critical role to play in moving Nigeria forward on the path of peace and development. The issue of women empowerment is a global consign but we women we should change our attitude. We must support our husbands. We must bring up our children so that they can be a good leader because the children are our future leaders of tomorrow. Remember, we were all once a child so we too must raise our children to be responsible. A good mother takes care of his children. We must also help all these children who have become widows by losing their parents for one reason or another.

Next, my fellow Africans, God said that we are the same people. Culture, we are the same. Even in food, we are the same. We eat the same thing. The two countries are the same people with Nigerians.

Then, to all the Nigerians abroad, God told me to tell you that Nigeria is a sweet home. Wiareva you go you must come back to Nigeria. Andrew is here. Andrew check out and now he has checked in. But while you are still living there, please keep up the good work you have started, let it continue. I plead with you as Nigeria’s Tourism ambassador, don’t bring Nigeria image down there. As you have raised our image high and made us walk tall, please continue. Keep the relationship between Nigeria and whichever country you are in as one. We should have love for our fellow Nigerians irrespective of their nationality.

Finally, amongst the Nigerians, there are only those few that I feel that they might be talking what they feel, not what God has planned. All those talking bad about my husband, Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, the best couple on earth, please stop. My husband and Sambo is a good people. God told me that my husband will win the 2015 elections and nothing anybody says can’t stop God from doing what He wants to do. Umblerra will win again. Don’t mind all these small small boys like Elnathan John who are talking nonsense. Who born them? Wasn’t it not a woman? They were once a children now they have mouth to be talking nonsense. God will judge all of them that wish my husband bad.

Anyway, I just want to thank all the seven million Nigerians who prayed for me during my illness. God will bless you.”


14 Days of Romance

It’s February, the month of love. To celebrate, the Romance Writers of West Africa are hosting 14 days of romance between the 5th and the 22nd of February.

Check it out here. RWOWA

My book will be featured too. Head on over and see how you can get in with a chance to win a freebie or two.

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“I am not my hair”

It’s amazing that it’s considered revolutionary to wear my hair the way it grows out of my head.” Tracy Thoms in Chris Rock’s Good Hair

Last year, on the 14th of July (Le Quatorze Juillet, France’s National Day) to be exact, (4) Getting used to BC 13th July 2012I cut my hair all off (I have since learned that what I did was The Big Chop aka BC). Before then, I had been frustrated with the state of my hair. It was relaxed and over the years, lost a lot of thickness. Even though people commented on how full my hair was, I knew it was nothing like it used to be years ago. I reckoned that it was a result of years and years of chemical treatment so decided to cut it all off, stay away from chemicals and see if it would make a difference.

I was a bit apprehensive about managing my natural hair as I recalled that my hair texture is very coarse and it used to be very painful just combing it out. I was also unsure whether or not low-cut style would suit me. It had been over 20 years since I had sported a similar style. Mo Cushla was very supportive and encouraged me to go ahead as he thought it would look great on me. Anyway, after a lot of to-ing and fro-ing, I decided to go for it. I reckoned that if it did not suit me, I would just wear a wig until it grew out long enough to style differently.

Though I knew next to nothing about natural hair care, I have to confess to thinking that it would be a walk in the park. Boy, was I mistaken! Having taken the plunge, I started to do some research. I wanted to make sure I got it right so I signed up to a couple of groups on Facebook and watched a number of videos on Youtube on the subject. I was amazed at how much information there is out there. Some I have found really helpful, others, simply a waste of precious time. However, making sense of all that information is something I am still grappling with.

I have since learned that achieving the healthy and thriving growth I had seen and envied on some naturalistas (that is what people who wear their hair natural are called) is hard work. I am discovering that a wash and go is the low man on the totem pole and there is a whole lot more to natural hair care than a simple wash and condition.

To start with, you need to ascertain your hair type. Hair type? What’s that? I know, I had never given much Hair types 2thought to my hair type prior to this but it turns out that this is very important as it will determine what products you should or should not use.  You may need to try out different products in order to find which ones work best for your hair. It is strongly recommended to stay away from products with sulfates, parabens, silicones and/or alcohol in them. Please do not ask me what those are, apart from alcohol, I could not tell you as Chemistry was never my strong suit. The number of products available for natural hair is gazillion, it is a growing market. It could end up costing you a fortune, if you’re not careful.

The next step is creating a hair care regimen. This will include but is not limited to pre-pooing, detangling, shampooing, co-washing, conditioning, deep conditioning, hot oil treatment, moisturising, sealing-in, protein treatment, hair masks, protective styling and the list goes on.

In the course of my research, I have come across an interesting phenomenon. I have observed that a large number of naturalistas are women and they take this business of wearing your hair in its natural state very seriously. So seriously that it pretty much defines them. Some get really worked up by the fact that others use chemicals in their hair. They refer to relaxer and any hair-straightening chemicals as ‘creamy crack’. In some of the groups I have signed up to you can ask questions and get advice to help with hair care. I am both amused and alarmed at the responses to a certain question which gets asked fairly often. It is the question of applying heat to hair to straighten it.

Some women find that their hair does not return to its natural curl pattern after they heat-straighten it and, at their wit’s end, they ask what to do. Sometimes I can actually feel the venom in the responses hit me smack in the face as I read them. The indignation expressed is palpable. Basically, some are of the opinion that if you wear your hair in its natural state, you have no business applying heat to it as this not only causes irreparable heat damage but also means you are trying to get your hair to look like a Caucasian’s thereby betraying your heritage. They are neither reticent nor do they mince words telling the offending party off for daring to desecrate the sacredness of their kinky hair by applying heat to it.

I find this reaction equally baffling and entertaining. However I realise that for some it is more than just hair, there are other underlying issues that are inadvertently triggered every time the hair issue comes up. At the risk of sounding prejudiced, I think that in certain parts of the world particularly the United States, black hair has been so politicised to the point where it has become an identity issue. This, in my opinion, is the result of a tortured racial history where thick, kinky, curly black hair was seen as bad and uncivilised. The media perpetuates this kind of thinking when they fuss over black women’s hair excessively. A case in the point is the recent wide press coverage the First Lady of the USA, Michelle Obama’s fringe (bangs to Americans) at the presidential inauguration received a couple of weeks ago.

Black women are having to defend how they choose to wear their hair, usually, to other black women who are guilty of judging and criticising others about their hair choices. This is unfortunate.

To me, hair is hair. How you choose to wear yours is your prerogative. I will not presume to know what is best for you. I respect your choice and I would also appreciate it if you would respect mine. My hair and the way I choose to wear it do not and should not define me. I say live and let live. It’s just hair and I am not my hair.

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