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Navigating relationships

Relationships. I’m thinking of relationships.

Sometimes the way forward is murky and unclear leaving one in a quandary as to what route to take. Other times, it is as clear as day. The writing splashed across the mind’s wall in a large bold font, unambiguous, unequivocal, its message, unmistakable.

When, in a relationship, you find yourself morphing into a person you scarcely recognise, bending over backwards in a manner contortionists the world over would envy, to accommodate and to fit in with the other’s expectations of you, you do not need a seer to tell you that it does not bode well for the future. You would be wise to vote with your feet.

A person who keeps demanding that you change to suit them will never be satisfied. They are selfish, self-centred and narcissistic. They think the world and everyone in it exist for the sole purpose of pleasing them. They have no thought for the well-being of others except it directly affects theirs. Such a person is incapable of appreciating your sacrifices. They believe it is their God-given right that others do for them and never them for others.

It is folly to expect that marriage will be an improvement on the current state of affairs. On the contrary, it will probably be a lot worse. Anything that is so one-sided will eventually topple.

Relationships only work when both parties appreciate that neither is perfect, are willing to compromise and make efforts to accommodate the other. Anything else is simply a disaster waiting to happen.

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6 thoughts on “Navigating relationships

  1. After reading this piece on your blog, @Nkem Ivara, I am entrapped by your skilful words, I am bookmarking your blog because good writing oils my mind!

    Compromise is a catalyst in every Relationship, but when bending backwards becomes the job and manner of only one person, then the oil of the relationship is gone dry and if left uncheck, the engine will knock.

    This may result to having a stand-by mechanic who services the vehicle without receipts (aka Sidekicks).

    • Ja nie narzekam na Euro w Warszawie. ObawiaÅ‚am siÄ™ go, ale nie żaÅ‚ujÄ™, że jest. Jest wzglÄ™dny spokój, dobra orzcingaaja i mili ludzie. Pijanych najwiÄ™cej to widujÄ™ Polaków… Ja sama od poczatku Euro wyjÄ…tkowo dużo piwa wypiÅ‚am 😉 Ale sÄ…dzÄ™ że w Hiszpanii atmosfera jest dużo gorÄ™tsza:)

  2. This is so well-written and so true. I mean, if you going to change yourself that much, you might as well change the partner!

  3. CityDiva on said:

    Hey Wordsmythe, very nicely written. Should be lesson 1 in marriage counselling 😀

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